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Advantages of Single Parenting
When it Comes to Adoption
Advantages of single parenting - are there any?
If you are single and contemplating building a family on your own, you may be concerned about the impact it will have on the child you want raise.
As an adult raised by a single parent, I have to be honest with you.
There will be times when it's going to be tough for your child.
Spending time with friends who grew up with both parents made it painfully obvious to what I was missing out on.
But looking back, I realize a great deal of the trauma I experienced in my childhood came from my parents' divorce rather than being raised by only my mom.
With that in mind, here are some advantages of single parenting when it comes to adoption and going it alone.
Sad Statistics
In their book, Growing Up With a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps
, Sara McLanahan and Gary D. Sandefur say studies show children raised by single parents have an increased risk of high school dropouts, unwed pregnancies and a lack of success in early adulthood.
But
It's not being raised by a single mom or dad that is usually the problem.
Instead it has to do with how much social capital you have.
Social capital is a term used by sociologist James Coleman to describe the support network you have with friends, family and community - people with whom you have a relationship and who you trust - that you can turn to for advice, help and even that small loan from time to time.
If you have this kind of backup in your life, you're likely to do just fine raising children on your own.
In Fact
You're better off than the recently divorced moms (and dads).
After the trauma of a divorce, these parents are likely to lose crucial support during the painful breakup, something that can be devastating to their children.
One of the advantages of single parenting from the start - as opposed to becoming a single parent through divorce - is your social capital isn't going anywhere.
Income Level
Another crucial factor in raising a happy, successful child is your income level.
One of the advantages of single parenting through adoption is income level usually isn't an issue with a single mom or dad who is looking to adopt a child.
After all, if you can afford an adoption - especially an international adoption - you can afford raising a child.
Those parents who wind up parenting on their own through divorce or an unwanted pregnancy also typically have a much lower income, leaving their children at a distinct disadvantage.
So if you desperately want a child, don't let the fact that you are single deter you from building your family through adoption.
Despite the statistics, your child is more likely than not to have a great life.
A good resource for single parents with advice, tips and support is Single Moms Ask Sara.
How to Become a Positive Parent
Teach your children that good behavior will lead to positive benefits.
There are a number of ways to do this, including using a parenting program that allows children to earn tickets for demonstrating good behaviors and positive values.
Learn to modify your child's behavior by watching your language.
By stating commands in the positive rather than the negative, you can teach your children in subtle, yet powerful ways.
You can practice better discipline methods by teaching your children that it is their behavior, rather than your anger, that has both positive and negative outcomes, eliminating your anger and frustration in the process.
Peace at Home
There are excellent programs out there to help you with this goal.
The important thing is to take a positive step toward positive reinforcement parenting.
Your home will become more harmonious, and you'll all be happier and live in a more peaceful environment.
More Information on Raising Adopted Children
Do you long to adopt more children, but feel like you can't afford it?
Finances are the number one reason many children do not adopt a second or third child. But it can be done.
We adopted all three of our children without going into debt. So can you.
Learn how.
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Here are some reasons to avoid helicopter parenting.
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When celebrities like Madonna are raising adopted children, it has an impact on international adoption for both good and ill. Learn how.
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Good parenting skills are something most adoptive parents are thinking about while on their international adoption journey.
We truly appreciate these precious children and want to raise them the best way we know how. Read more.
Raising adopted children through a permissive parenting style is an easy trap for adoptive parents to fall into, but if you choose to parent your child without rules both you and your child will suffer for it.
Read more.
Sign language is a great tool for anyone raising adopted children, especially internationally adopted children by providing parents with an easier way of communication during those early days and easing frustration for their child.
Read more.
Most adoption stories are told from the parent's perspective.
It was truly refreshing, therefore, when I stumbled across the story of one adoptee who reunited with her family in Taiwan.
Read more.
An international adoption resource to help parents effectively communicate with their newly adopted children was the goal of one adoptive mom when she created Russian for Adoptive Parents and Chinese for Adoptive Parents.
These programs teach parents comfort phrases in their children's native languages. Read more.
Having a learning disabled child is likely, especially if you adopt more than one child internationally or even domestically.
But these children can be just as intelligent as any other child, and raising adopted children with learning disabilities can be delightful, although they will have their own unique challenges.
Children that are adopted; what's the rest of their story?
What happens to them when they are grown, and how do they feel about being adopted?
International Adoption Facts and Information is starting a new series where we hear the stories of adults who were adopted internationally as children.
This is the first in that series.
Adopted children and parents who are raising adopted children are no different from any other relationship between a parent and child.
It's not biology that makes a relationship, but rather time, devotion and love.
Here is one adopted person's story.
International adoption Mexico is one person's story of being born in Mexico and then eventually be adopted in the United States.
Adopted child syndrome - ever heard of it?
Basically, it's a controversial label used to explain hurtful and destructive behaviors in adopted children such as violence, defiant behavior, lying, stealing and reactive attachment disorder.
If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD, take heart; it's not nearly as difficult to raise a child with ADHD as you may think.
But please do think twice before putting him on a prescription medication.
Learn more.
Want to build your newly adopted child's immune system, protecting him from a host of nasty bacterial, viral and fungal infections?
Feed him this healthy oil.
For the best bonding experience in the world plus the best nutrition for your newly adopted baby, consider breastfeeding him.
Yes, it can be done. Read more.
Have you ever wondered what the phrase, positive parenting means? It's learning to focus on the positives rather than the negatives.
Learn more.
Looking for ways to raise your children without nagging or yelling?
Read more.
What happens if the child you adopt is displaying autistic tendencies? Take heart; he or she will very likely improve with time.
Learn more.
Nobody wants to adopt a child with serious emotional problems, but being prepared for the unexpected is the best way to successful parenting and preventing a disrupted adoption.
Learn more.
Understanding the reasons why siblings fight is a good way to prevent rivalries and promote family harmony.
Learn more.
Adoption books are a great way to explain adoption to young children and open the door for discussion about sensitive adoption issues such as birth parents, and why your child was placed for adoption.
Here are some great books your child will love.
Read more.
Learning to cook ethnic recipes from your child's country of birth will be a comfort to your older child and a great learning experience for children adopted at a younger age.
Read more.
If you're waiting for your adopted child to be grown before telling him he's adopted, you may be doing more harm than good.
Here's why.
If your child is of another race, make sure you teach your child to be proud of his race and to appreciate his and other cultures.
Learn more.
When a child is adopted internationally, he must not only deal with the shock of new parents, but also often a new language, customs and even different food.
Follow these tips to make the transition easier.
It's always best to be open with your child about his adoption, but how do you approach the subject with him?
Here are some tips.
Your grown child is looking for his birthparent. So should you feel threatened?
Absolutely not.
Here's why.
Are you worried that your newly adopted child is so different you won't be able to attach to her?
Then you need to read this article.
Click here.
As adoptive parents, we often place high expectations on ourselves as parents and it's easy to become discouraged.
That's when it's time to realize you're a normal parent with normal feelings.
Read more.
A birth mother who searches for, and even comes back to take back a child she has given up for adoption.
Is this possible?
This issue was addressed recently in the hit show Glee, when teen mom Quinn, who had given up her baby for adoption in a previous season, announced she wanted to get her daughter back.
Read more.
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