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Adoptees Looking for Birth Parents

Adoptees looking for birth parents is not uncommon, especially as your child becomes an adult with children of his or her own. Not all adoptees will look for a birth parent, but if your grown child decides to seek out his birth mom, does it mean he is looking to replace you? The answer is usually a resounding no.



Don't Feel Threatened

Just because your child wants to look for his birth parents, doesn't mean he plans on replacing you, or that he is dissatisfied with having you for a parent. Most adoptees aren't looking for a relationship with their birth parents at all, but rather something else.

Information

Most adult adoptees looking for birth parents want to know more about their ethnic heritage, or what diseases run in their biological families or just the little things like why their head tilts in a certain way. Connecting with those who share a genetic link is a way to know and understand who you are in a better way. And the best way to learn about those genetic links is through meeting your biological parent.

Major Life Events and Finding a Biological Parent

Sometimes a major event in your child's life will make them want to search for their birth parents, such as when they have their first child, when they get married or divorced, or when one of their adoptive parents die. And yes, sometimes it can happen when they are unhappy with you, and there is strife in your relationship.

So What Should You Do?

First of all, don't try to stop your adult children from seeking out their biological parents. It won't do any good any way; if they want to search for their birth parent, they are going to do it, whether they have your approval or not. But if you try to discourage them from searching for their biological parents, they will likely grow resentful, and your relationship will be strained.

Get Proactive Now

Give your children the freedom to seek out their biological parents. Bring up the topic before they're grown. Tell your children that if they want to search for their birth parents someday, you understand and that you love them no matter what. Also, be sure to share with your children any information you may have about their birth parents.

That way, the love and trust you have developed with your children will stronger as your children explore who they are and develop into the beautiful people they are meant to be.

How to Become a Positive Parent

Teach your children that good behavior will lead to positive benefits. There are a number of ways to do this, including using a parenting program that allows children to earn tickets for demonstrating good behaviors and positive values.

Learn to modify your child's behavior by watching your language. By stating commands in the positive rather than the negative, you can teach your children in subtle, yet powerful ways.

You can practice better discipline methods by teaching your children that it is their behavior, rather than your anger, that has both positive and negative outcomes, eliminating your anger and frustration in the process.

Peace at Home

There are excellent programs out there to help you with this goal. The important thing is to take a positive step toward positive reinforcement parenting. Your home will become more harmonious, and you'll all be happier and live in a more peaceful environment.

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